Ephesians 4:29-31 (GNB)
Do not use harmful words, but only helpful words, the kind that build up and provide what is needed, so that what you say will do good to those who hear you. And do not make God’s Holy Spirit sad; for the Spirit is God’s mark of ownership on you, a guarantee that the Day will come when God will set you free. Get rid of all bitterness, passion, and anger. No more shouting or insults, no more hateful feelings of any sort.
A major reflection of your level of spiritual maturity is the manner in which you control your tongue. God wants your words to be consistent. God wants you to speak words of love and life continually. James 3:10 (NKJV) says, “out of the same mouth proceeds blessing and cursing. My brothers, these things ought not to be so.” In verse 11, James goes further to ask whether a fountain can produce both sweet and bitter water from the same source. Let only sweet water proceed from your mouth.
In Matthew 15:11, Jesus made it clear that it is what comes out of a man that defiles him. By the help of the Holy Spirit, you can exercise self control, especially in the use of your words. You can edit whatever you want to say to ensure that you are using the kind of words that will uplift the recipient and bring glory to God. Shy away from words that will grieve the Holy Spirit and cause you regret later. Like Jesus, you can choose not to open your mouth even when you are being provoked, Isa.53:7.
This does not mean that you cannot correct people when they do wrong. Speaking the truth in love will cause you to become more like Christ, Eph.4:15. Forgive and pray for people that hurt you. They know not what they are doing. Control your anger and bitterness. Man’s anger does not work out God’s righteousness, James 1:20. Yield more to the Holy Spirit and His righteousness, peace and joy, flow out of you, Rom.14:17.
PRAYER: Heavenly Father, I receive strength from your Spirit to keep walking in love and to exercise more control over my words.